i just saw an article that stated an arkansas couple just had their 17 th child. In todays market how can anyone afford more than 2 -3 children?More
Asked by: drummer158
I certainly don't understand it either. And it's not just the financial impact - how do the parents devote any significant amount of meaningful time and attention to the children individually? If this is the family I've read about before (Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar), I remember them mentioning that a lot of the parenting responsibilities fall on the older children. That's just sad. What a travesty to force upon those children in the name of something like 'we'll welcome more children as long as God blesses us with them'. Nuts. More
Specifically, if you have more than 3 children, how do you think a large family helps the parents AND children? Did you have lots of children for spiritual reasons? Did you adopt? Do you notice more maturity, selflessness, caring and obedience in your children than other families with only one or two children?More
Asked by: Aubrey C
I'm 35yrs with 4 children (all my own). I have three boys, ages 9, 7 and 3 and a baby girl who was born in Aug 2007.
My husband and I planned on having 2, MAYBE 3 kids at the most, but deep down I wanted a big family. I'm one of three and have step siblings as well and really enjoyed that large family atmosphere. I don't know how I did it, but I talked my husband into having 4 kids.
I believe my children are the way there are because of my and my husband's parenting methods, not because there are 4 of them. I've seen only children behave better than mine and only children behave worse. I honestly don't think that has much of an impact on a child's behavior. It's how the parents react and teach that does.
Whether we had 1 child or 7 children, we would still treat and raise them the same way we do now. I think the only thing that is different about them compared to smaller families because of the number of children in our family is giving support. Whether it's a soccer game, piano recital, school play etc, ALL OF US go to cheer that one on. They all have their chance to shine in front of the family.
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I understand that people should be responsible for their children, but isn't dropping your kids off at a hospital more responsible then leaving them somewhere else? Isn't leaving them in a responsible place (if you are unable to be a responsible parents) the most responsible thing for the children involved?
About me: I DO NOT have any children. I am NOT planning on leaving any children anywhere. I am simply looking for your opinions.
I'm referring to the new law in Kentucky (I believe) that says that you can drop your children of any age under 18 at a hospital without question.More
Asked by: Jenna
It think it is called the Safe Harbor Act and most states have enacted it. Although many states are trying to change it so that it is only applicable to infants 4 DAYS old and younger because many parents were dropping off their teenagers and leaving. I do think it is better than some alternatives but there are more appropriate measures that can be taken when a parent doesn't want their child. Personally I don't understand how anyone can do that but I am not judging those who do. My kids drive me nuts some days but I couldn't imagine ever considering giving them away. I suppose it is the right thing to do for those people who can't take care of their children though. More
Montessori schools usually go from preschool through elementary. Once the child transfers to a public middle school, do they have problems with the new environment, especially in light of the no-child-left-behind methodology which assumes all children should develop at the same rate within ridgid scholastic structures?More
Asked by: Zefram
Whenever I hear this question I think about a scene in the movie Mean Girls. Kady, the movie’s protagonist has been homeschooled in Africa by her anthropologist parents. Her first “real” school is a public high school.
At first she is shocked and confused by the rules of the school. As she says in a voice over,”Never before had I lived in a world where adults didn’t trust me. I got in trouble for the most random things.” Then she is seen getting up to sharpen her pencil or to go to the bathroom and teachers being dismayed with her.
This is the kind of “transition” problem Montessori children have. They have been taught to be responsible and to think for themselves and now they are placed in a situation where they aren’t usually allowed to.
Being a Montessori teacher in a traditional school, I can tell you that these are the things that teachers get upset with. My program only goes to 3rd grade, so I get to hear it from the 4th grade teachers everyday. I’m not going to lie to you, they complain. I think it is human nature to be skeptical of things that are different and to try and find fault with them. But over the years I’ve tried to push past the complaints and actually look at the “problems” that my students have when transitioning.
First are the MANAGMENT problems. Asking permission for everything. Montessori students are used going to the bathroom when they need to go, they sharpen their pencils when they need to, they get up and get something that they need to complete their work with, they put on chapstick…. The only time I make them ask for permission is during a lesson or if they have been abusing the privilege, so a classroom where they have to ask permission, or just aren’t allowed to do such things during class time takes a little time to get use to.
SOCIAL- Montessori students are used to working together and helping their peers. They are used to using conflict resolution skills to work through their problems, they are used to the teacher not only respecting their input and opinions, but encouraging them, and they are use to respecting other children’s needs and having their needs respected. This can cause a problem when children are now in a situation where they are constantly given ultimatums and they aren’t allowed to come up with solutions on their own.
ACADEMIC- Montessori children are use to being able to move on to new material when they are ready for that information, not when the scripted program and district benchmark says that they should. They are also used to saying to the teacher, “I’m having a lot of problems understanding this concept, could you show it to me in another way?” Additionally, they are use to having a hand in their education. A common question is “May I study …. a write a report on it for science this week?” Obviously, in a classroom where the teacher follows a script and teaches only what they are scripted to teach, will take some time getting used to.
So yes, there are adaptation problems. But you know what? Montessori children are unusually adaptable. They know how to work independently and in groups. They are problem solvers who can make choices and manage their time well. So in general, after an initial adjustment period, they can do adapt quite well. And, at least in my eyes, the skills that they have learned from being in Montessori classroom completely outweigh the problems that they encounter when they first make the transition to a traditional school. More
How to Control emotions in Children or how to build emtional intelligence in children.
Let's say children play computer/video games watch TVa lot, when we say no, they cries, they feel emotional.How to develop emotional intelligence in children.Can any one share.ThanksMore
Asked by: sri
We have to remember that when we try to keep children away from TV, Video Games, or computer games etc, we are in direct competition with those big people who have created & marketed those games. They are very intelligent, and know how to make money, so they are far more superior than us in attracting children towards those games than us, when we try to discourage children!
The only advantage we have,( it is indeed a very big , significant advantage), is that the children are very much within our reach, and we love our children UNCONDITIONALLY. So, we have to maintain awareness of this advantage, and patiently explain the disadvantages of spending too much time on these games, using the stories of real life heroes, who perform well in life. Also invite some children of same age who are better convinced about spending time more usefully, to share their opinion . We have to participate in the thought process of children to convince them effectively , in such a way that they would need no control or even supervision, to keep away from temptation to spend too much time on these games. More
